Email, voice mail and texting are all good tools for everyday communication. When it matters most, eye to eye contact works best.

Adversity can mean many different things to each of us. Misfortune, difficulty, hardship, trouble, distress, disaster, sorrow, misery, pain, trauma, mishap, accident, upset, setback, crisis, catastrophe, calamity, tragedy or burden. Each of us faces adversity at some point in our lifetime, it is a common human condition. Most of us will face hardship both personally and professionally. What seems to shape a person is not so much the type of crisis but rather how it is handled.

How is it that some people seem to weather the storms better than others? How do some stay optimistic and productive after a setback? Whatever your reference point, know that it is within your power to not only neutralize the consequences, but craft the outcome to your advantage.

9 tips that will turn the adversity in your relationships into an advantage:

  1. Some people will not want you to succeed. When you do succeed, those same people will exert great energy to tear you down.
  2. Choose the people you hang with most carefully. This will be one of the most significant decisions you’ll make throughout your life.
  3. The only relationships that matter are those that result in a win-win. One sided relationships almost never work.
  4. Surround yourself with people that are smarter than you.
  5. When the chips are down, count on yourself to deliver the winning punch. The heavy-lifting should be done by those with the most to loose.
  6. Email, voice mail and texting are all good communication tools for everyday talk. When it matters, eye to eye contact works best.
  7. When others doubt you, and question your sincerity, use this as fuel to not only rise above but to succeed on your terms. Action trumps words.
  8. When given a choice, it is best to be impatient, impractical and impervious to what others think.
  9. Confront your enemies. Seek them out. Look them in the eye and let them know that all is good. Smile. Converse. Move on.